TALK WITH A HERO

Continue to Part 8 .

In the fourth part of a series of "levels of letting off steam" denotes the levels of "letting off steam."

Today we look Unconscious. The name speaks for itself.
Draw a portrait of the owner of such a method of implementation:

• The person is unable to control their negative emotions. They are fully captured his mind, creating stress to the nervous system.
• For him to blame all around. His usual phrase: "You are special to me that shakes your nerves?" Or "You do it for evil, or specifically?"
• He was then shaken for a long time to deplete the abundance of emotion, but he had nothing to do with it may not. Actually does not want to, considering others guilty in all their troubles.
• He throws himself into a cry for any reason and does not tolerate opposition.

Know anyone?

Let's look at why this is happening.

I'm not joking when he called the author of such manifestations of the owner of this method of implementation.
For him, the aggression is really the only way to prove himself. And if something does not happen to him, then met violent resistance.

He is doomed to fight my whole life, if not change your beliefs about it. Such distribution among readers probably do not. All the talk on the topic of working with them they say "dog nonsense" and that the training for personal growth "floating brains."

And if their relatives are still embarked on self-improvement, they are threatening to "cut all the coaches," "head to unscrew them all." For what it's about what they promise to do, and sometimes do with their environment.

This is their strategy of influence. They do not see their value in life, a sense of unrealized glozhit their self-esteem, and they assert their authority suppression of the environment.

A person with a weak heart is hard to endure. But if you see them strengths, their hearts will be opened to you. They're waiting for recognition. This is only what they are making their aggression. They are useless to call for common sense and spodvigaet to work with him. Awareness of their strengths to feed their egos and they become very tame. And if your warmth will be enough not to infringe on their self-esteem, and support that they have a good work, then they will become your best friends and never personally you can not raise his voice and hand.

Everyone wants love. This is exactly what he is most lacking.

Do not teach him to live, not "heal" him. He himself is not so satisfied and frustrated by his unrealized. What he wants is to feel relevant and to be loved. If you manage to remember it in its regular bouts of anger, you will change his and his life. He waits for the understanding and patience. And your mate's aggression will only increase the conflict.

Deal with them to communicate with a partner can only be staying at the third level of "letting off steam" when your desire to control this process becomes conscious. In the second, when you decide to "tell all" that think about it, "will cut diamond."

An understanding of levels of "ferry"
raises our awareness of and responsibility for themselves and their surroundings.
It will help keep the relationship and create something
that will disclose both.

To be continued ...

Tags: influence , conflict , personal growth , awareness , claims , implementation , ego , emotions

January 26, 2012 | Category: Claims | Author: Natalia Polukhina
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